In life’s journey, unexpected changes often present themselves, offering opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Divorce is a life-altering event that can lead to reevaluating one’s aspirations. 

This blog post explores the story of transforming the challenging divorce experience into realising a childhood dream: pursuing a higher education by studying abroad for an MBA in the UK. I write this narrative to inspire individuals seeking to overcome adversity and embark on personal and professional development.

Having a higher education outside of Vietnam has been on my mind since my early twenties. 

However, at this stage of my life, pursuing that dream is something I had been hesitant to do despite my persistent thoughts. I vividly remember that during the divorce process, the topic of my desire to study overseas often arose, causing distress to my former partner. It is important to note that my intention was never to salvage our marriage but to pursue my educational goals.

After the divorce was finalised, I knew it was time to decide. Studying abroad became even more appealing as I was technically “free”. The desire for personal growth and expanded horizons encouraged me to take the leap and explore education beyond Vietnam. I wanted to broaden my knowledge, challenge myself, and gain new perspectives.

Determinedly, I began researching universities and programs that aligned with my interests. 

A New Language Education

I have a passion for languages, particularly Spanish. I even taught myself Spanish at the young age of 19. This love for languages led me to contemplate pursuing a language degree in Spain after my divorce.

In Saigon, I enrolled in Spanish classes. Still, unfortunately, the course was consistently dismissed at the B1 level due to a lack of students. Most individuals were content with not progressing, unlike myself.

Determined to continue my language journey, I persevered by dedicating my time to self-learning and practising at home. I even sought the assistance of a private tutor for personalised instruction. However, I eventually had to relinquish this luxury to prioritise financial efficiency.

I started researching the courses in Spain, including where to live and study and the Visa requirements. I contacted over ten language institutes in Spain to inquire about tuition fees and gather all the necessary information.

In addition, I sought advice from my Spanish friends to gain more insights about their country. Interestingly, I also consulted my previous partner, as our original plan was to move back to Spain together so that I could study the language.

Even though everything was still uncertain, I had something to look forward to. Despite my ongoing efforts to work and address the debt situation I had gotten myself into, I had no idea how I would make studying abroad a reality.

Unveiling the Pathway: A Journey of Discovery

And then, one fine evening, while enjoying a delightful dinner with my dear friends from Saigon and with the visit of Mama Joanna, our conversation took a turn that profoundly impacted my thinking. Mama Joanna mentioned that if I travel to Spain, I must stop in Malta to visit her, as it boasts lovely weather and some of the most breathtaking beaches in the Mediterranean.

Malta offers various opportunities for both studying and working. During a lunch meeting with a friend, the topic of Malta came up, prompting me to explore the possibilities of pursuing education and employment there. One option that piqued my interest was the MBA program. However, my thought eventually led me to consider relocating to the UK. 

Being someone who has always had a fondness for Europe, having visited Spain three times and Portugal once, I couldn’t help but contemplate my next move. 

Should I go to Spain to pursue a language degree or choose a different destination to pursue an MBA, which would propel my career forward? With a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration and an HND in 3D Design, specialising in Interior Design (although I applied the practice to designing fashion more), I knew that pursuing an MBA could provide me with the necessary skills and knowledge to advance in my field. Plus, it would open up professional and personal opportunities for me.

But the question remained: was I too old to embark on this journey? At 37, I couldn’t help but wonder if I was making a mistake. However, after much contemplation and self-reflection, I realised that age should never be a barrier to pursuing one’s dreams and aspirations.

The Exciting Journey of MBA Education Begins

So, I’ve decided to pursue an MBA. Now comes the question of where to study. To make an informed choice, I began analysing my strengths and weaknesses. 

Considering that I can speak English fluently, exploring countries where I can fully utilise my language capabilities seems logical. I can also learn Spanish alongside or after completing my MBA. Reflecting on the prospect of moving, I wonder why I limit myself to a small country. Instead, I should leap of faith and aim for a big jump, embracing the opportunities a larger country offers.

One fateful day, an ad on YouTube caught my attention – an invitation for an MBA scholarship in the UK from ISC Education. Intrigued, I clicked on the ad, and it directed me to the registration page for a Study Abroad fair at the Rex Hotel. Naturally, I seized the opportunity and attended the event, eagerly engaging with representatives from various UK universities. While universities from Canada and Australia were present, I decided to focus on UK institutions, recognising that it would facilitate my future travels within Europe.

After receiving guidance from Ms. Tram at ISC Education, I successfully submitted my applications to three universities. To my delight, all three universities accepted me. Furthermore, to my surprise, Brunel University London even offered me a scholarship for their MBA program.

A stream of joy flooded inside me, engulfing my entire being, and at that moment, I couldn’t help but wear the biggest, most radiant smile. And then, something extraordinary happened―my eyes welled up with tears, and my face became moist with pure, unadulterated happiness. These were tears of triumph, for I had finally found my way out, a beacon of hope guiding me towards a new path. Now, with unwavering determination, I have something magnificent to look forward to.

Thought Process: Investing in My Future

And now, I am faced with a decision – which University should I choose to move forward with? Despite thoroughly researching each University before submitting my applications, I am in a dilemma as all three have accepted me. Life is always full of choices, and this is yet another important one to make.

Despite their higher tuition fee than other universities, I decided to go with Brunel University due to their leadership programme, teaching method, and authentic, solid and integrity values that resonate with me. 

Not only that, Brunel University was the only institution that requested an interview with me, which solidified my strong commitment to them. It felt like everything was falling into place, and I knew it was the right step for me.

Additionally, their well-known name and high ranking in terms of employability for graduates also played a significant role in my decision-making process. The opportunity to learn from intellectual professors at the University makes the higher tuition fee all the more worthwhile.

Brunel was ranked 6th in the UK for student social mobility by the IFS and the Sutton Trust in November 2021, as well as being ranked the 14th best UK university for producing the most employable graduates by the Global University Employability Ranking 2022.

I am aware that this year is going to be challenging. Not only will I face the demands of the MBA academic program, but I will also have to navigate the difficulties of leaving my own country and everything behind after 37 years of life. Leaving behind friends, family, and even my marriage has required significant sacrifices. However, deep down in my heart, all these sacrifices will be worth it. I am meant to do something more meaningful for the world. 

A Profound Sense of Gratitude

The most touching thing I have ever received was a gift from my former bosses at Broma. They generously gifted me a portion of the school’s deposit to help secure my place in the MBA program. Tears rose in my eyes when I received this gesture, and my heart overflowed with gratitude. It was their heartfelt way of showing appreciation for my decade-long dedication to work at the bar. I am incredibly grateful for their unwavering support and the love they have shown me. In addition, I was genuinely touched by the surprise farewell party organised by my dear friends and the entire staff at Broma. The thoughtfulness and effort put into the event truly moved me.

Being offered a scholarship by one of the top Universities in the UK is an incredible opportunity that I consider my golden ticket. This opportunity will profoundly transform my life for the better. It not only helped me regain my confidence but also validated my worthiness. The impact of this opportunity extends beyond personal growth. It will also contribute significantly to my professional development. 

I am incredibly grateful to Ms. Tram, Ms. Linh and ISC Education for their invaluable guidance throughout the application and Visa process. Ms. Tram is a Counselling Team Leader with a first-class degree in English Linguistics from the University of Social Sciences (HCM, Vietnam) and ten years of experience in the education industry. She joined ISC Education Ho Chi Minh Office in 2017 and has been leading in supporting the company’s world-class counselling team.

ISC Education provided me with the necessary resources and assistance at every step, enabling me to easily navigate the sometimes complex procedures. Their attention to detail and prompt responses have given me immense confidence and peace of mind. Thank you for being an incredible source of guidance and support.

The Gentle Nudge

Last but not least, though I have to admit that I did not always have confidence in myself, especially after the challenges I faced in my marriage, I have realised the importance of having unwavering belief in one’s potential. It is incredible how the presence of someone who believes in you wholeheartedly can instil a newfound sense of self-assurance, often surpassing your level of trust in yourself. 

Luckily, I had the privilege of crossing paths with someone who has consistently offered me their unwavering support, serving as a pillar of strength during my most vulnerable moments. Sometimes, all it takes is a gentle nudge in the right direction to unlock your true potential. I am forever grateful for that gentle nudge. Thank you.

Reflection On The Study Abroad Dream

One of my childhood dreams has always been to study abroad, though my pathway of studying abroad was always challenging. Unfortunately, I don’t always have support for this aspiration. 

I vividly remember being in my early twenties and a four-year relationship. When I shared my passion for studying abroad, my boyfriend responded, “Once you get on that plane, don’t ever come back.” His words hurt me deeply, and I was too young and lacked the determination to stand up for myself. Additionally, I needed the means or strength to make my dream a reality. That relationship did not last.

Though it was 2012, I found myself yearning for a career change. With a deep-rooted interest in Art, I dedicated one year to studying drawing and meticulously crafting my Portfolio. Excitedly, I applied to pursue Fine Art in the Netherlands, only to be disheartened upon learning that my Portfolio did not meet the admission standards. Determined to enhance its quality, I returned to the art class for another year. However, my ambitions to submit my application to Holland were quashed by an age restriction, as I had turned 27.

I continued researching and discovered an Interior Design course in Toronto, Canada. Determined to overcome the challenge, I delved into the requirements and completed the necessary work. I even created a short video for a scholarship competition as part of my efforts. Although I didn’t emerge as the winner, I received the fantastic news of being accepted into the University. 

The day I received the physical offer letter from the school, my heart overflowed with joy. Excitedly, I began preparing my Visa application and selling all my belongings simultaneously. However, when the day of the Visa result arrived, my eagerness turned into disappointment. I learned my Visa was denied for Mismatched Education and Insufficient Ties.

Frustration overwhelmed me, and I struggled to hold back tears as I drove home at a slow pace of 20 km/hour. Upon reaching my doorstep, the floodgates opened, and tears streamed down my face in a cascading torrent.

Domestic Conflict

Ten years have flown by in the blink of an eye. When I was with my previous partner, I used to share my deepest desire to study abroad alone. However, instead of receiving the encouragement I longed for, I often heard words like “You’re not that young anymore” or “Studying abroad is something for the younger folks.” Some even suggested that I should reconsider my dream because of my relationship. All I wanted was a bit of mental support. 

While my former partner believed in doing everything together, I enjoyed exploring things independently. It was hard not to compare my situation to not having the chance to live independently, pursue a qualification with international recognition, or travel solo. Throughout all those years, I held onto my dream and refused to let go.

The Power of Education in Embracing Setbacks

Fast forward to now, after going through the challenges and setbacks, I finally have the opportunity to study abroad. It feels surreal to think that I am on the verge of embarking on this new chapter of my life. I experience a mix of excitement, nervousness, and anticipation.

Reflecting on my journey, I am reminded of the strength and resilience it took to get here. The sacrifices I made, the obstacles I overcame, and the unwavering belief in myself have all shaped me into the person I am today. I am grateful for every failure and disappointment because they have taught me valuable lessons and made me even more determined to succeed.

Preparing for this new adventure, I am grateful for the opportunity ahead. I am thankful for the scholarship that will make this journey possible and the support and encouragement from those around me. I understand the responsibility of this opportunity and commit to making the most of it.

Studying abroad has always been a dream of mine, and although the path has yet to be straightforward. It has been a series of detours, setbacks, and moments of self-doubt. But through it all, one thing has remained constant: my unwavering belief in the power of education and its transformative impact on my life.

Final Thoughts

In conclusion, realising the significance of embracing setbacks as opportunities for growth and transformation is crucial. Moving forward is paramount in achieving personal and professional success despite facing challenges and obstacles. 

Education is pivotal in this journey, equipping individuals with the skills, knowledge, and mindset needed to navigate adversity. Continually seeking education can develop a broader perspective, adapt to changes, and foster personal growth. Through education, we can believe in a better life, as it opens doors to new possibilities and empowers us to create a brighter future for ourselves and others.

I am finally on the way to achieving my potential, and I am overjoyed. I have been given the fantastic opportunity to study at one of the most prestigious universities in the world. This is realising my dreams and a chance to become something more significant. 

As I embarked on this new adventure, there were various tasks I needed to attend to, including obtaining a visa, organising my finances, and ensuring that everything was in order before I began this journey. If you want to learn more about my preparations, I invite you to read a separate post here.

I hope you always find the courage in those challenging moments to embrace and succeed on your personal development journey.